For Joel and I, we make it a choice not to get into ruts or get bored with each other. The simplest way to do this is to plan a monthly date. I hear you saying, "A date, what's that?" You know those wonderful things you went on when you really wanted to get to know each other before you were married. I know what you are thinking, "But we don't have money or the funds to go out." That's all right. I have been there. Here are a few creative date ideas we have done.
- Go to a local coffee shop, get something you like, and hold hands while talking.
- After the kids go to bed, have a picnic at home. You can either pick up takeout or make a small treat at home. Lay out a blanket and light a few candles to set the mood.
- Take a walk in the park and share something new with your spouse. Maybe there is something the Lord has laid on your heart that you need to share.
- Have a competitive game night at home. Whatever you do, don't get into an argument if you loose. That totally ruins the entire purpose of the date.
- Make some popcorn, sit on the couch together, and watch a movie. (Fireproof is a great movie.)
For those of you who have a little extra money to spare, I encourage you to go to a weekend Christian marriage retreat. Joel and I have attended three events in the last six years and they have been instrumental in improving our communication and understanding of each other. I suggest the following retreats.
- Weekend to Remember offered by Family Life
- The Art of Marriage offered by Family Life
- Love and Respect Conference by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
My challenge to you is take a step outside of your comfort zone and get to know your spouse on a whole new level. The adventures that God has in store for your marriage are endless. God Bless!!